a look at our life as a WAHC.

As the typical use of the English language degenerates rapidly, probably in inverse relation to the availability of social networking, those of us who read things online often see acronyms that succinctly describe a person’s current state, such as SAHM for Stay-at-home-mom or WASP to describe White, Anglo-Saxon, Protestants. Honestly, I don’t understand why these four-letter titles are such a common part of web lingo, since other than texting or twitter most technological communication doesn’t have a word or character limit. (I might also argue that over-using these things reveals a limit to one’s moral character, my own included, but that’s not the issue here.)

Those objections aside, if this is how people are talking these days I suppose I can’t completely beat it. So I’m coming to terms with the facts: this week we have been a DINK (Double-income-no-kids) WAHC (Work-at-home-couple). The first title seems less glamorous when I clarify that these incomes would keep us well below the poverty level if we only had one of them.

As a change from his usual 70-hour researching work week in the lab, Aaron is laboriously writing for a deadline at the end of this month. As if this doesn’t sound hard enough on it’s own, scientific research publications look like another language. Working from the couch at home is a small comfort in the midst of this task.

And when I’m not changing the world one music lesson at a time, my grand central office is in the kitchen. I hear stand-up desks are all the rage these days. The location is a bit torturous because I keep getting distracted and trying to clean things.
As apparent in our pictures, we have been drinking copious amounts of fresh french-press coffee.

This DINK WAHC status allows opportunity to observe the shiny nose of our deer in it’s temporary home above the fireplace,

and check out the guppies in our new fish tank to see if they will be popping out babies under our careful watch.

…but the biggest benefit of this is coming up with ridiculous inside jokes. This morning, it’s that I shout, “I am (You are) being summoned!” in a British accent when one of us get a text message.

We were just talking about how we’re spending years in a stage of life neither of us really imagined being in for long. Of course graduate studies are demanding, but this PhD program is strenuous and it feels like it’s taking forever, and we’re uncertain about how many “roots” to put down where we live, childless, pinching pennies by necessity… It is very, very easy to feel like we’re just in a holding pattern, waiting for the rest of life to get here. So on the surface life usually feels quite stagnant, but we’d be missing out on so much if that is all we focus on. It often seems strange to settle into this DINK WAHC life, but it’s what we’ve got. Of course we look forward to things being different, and it can be difficult to balance contentment now and hoping for what is ahead. Weeks like this are such a gracious reminder that what we’ve got now is good, too.

Who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience… Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
– Romans 8, esv.

4 thoughts on “a look at our life as a WAHC.

  1. Abby, I wanted to let you know that I am simply in love with your blog. Your posts are always a true inspiration, even in the difficult times. You offer a Christ-focused, positive attitude that often makes me feel like a rebel heathen for not behaving with the same grace and poise that you do each day.

    In reference to this particular post, I too have learned that each stage of life offers its own challenges and concerns. I used to think, if only I could hurry up and graduate from college, if only I could hurry up and get that promotion, and so on and so on. I did graduate, and I did get that promotion, but did all my problems go away? Was everything as swell as I imagined it would be… alas, no! Don’t get me wrong, it’s a true blessing to progress throughout various stages of my life – but the truth be told – each new stage has brought its own worries and concerns.

    For me, the key has been learning to “cultivate a cheerful heart” :), regardless of the where we are in life. Easy to say – outrageously difficult to do. You remain my inspiration. Perhaps there’s hope for me yet.

    • Ayannah,
      Thank you so much for your kind words!! Wow. Although, really, you should not feel like a rebel heathen. I write here after untold weeks/months/years of angry private journaling on similar topics. I bet you are much more graceful and poised than you think. 😉 Every bit of life, even seasons we thought would be nonexistent or very short, carries its own concerns. Truly the Lord was right to say “Tomorrow will worry about itself – sufficient for today is the evil thereof.” Can I get an amen?
      Have a wonderful day, friend!
      -Abby.

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